From The Desk Of Benjamin Janey:
I would like to take a moment to personally invite you all to change. My newly released workbook titled, Domestic Violence-The Cure is more than just a book for you to read about cases ad stories pertaining to domestic violence. It is a workbook that consist of many stages and exercises which leads to the cure.
Not once have you ever heard someone say, "I have the cure for domestic violence." The title is more than a bold statement because I am living proof that it's an actual fact. Experience is known as the best teacher. Therefore, what has been in place is treatment. This is not belittling anyone's efforts. However, a person cannot change their ways until they change their minds.
Discussing who, what, when, and where is like preaching to the choir. All parties involved knew this information beforehand because they were there. As time progressed, great minds have only been labeling the different types of abuse to prolong admitting that they don't know why?
Ask yourself, "Is it time for change?" Ask yourself, "Based on the repeated offenses, some we know first hand, can we afford to continue doing business as usual?"
I say yes it's time for change, and no we cannot afford to continue doing business as usual. Keep in mind that it is a business because I've paid $500.00 or more for programs that never addressed why?
To look at domestic violence as just a behavioral problem is like...
Everyone would like a long lasting, loving relationship. Unfortunately, there's more trial and error, followed by separation. Was it them or was it us? We tend to blame the latter. Nonetheless, we have to ask ourselves, "Do we inspect what we expect?"
When we're not in love and completely satisfied with ourselves, yet seeking happiness outside of ourselves, we're doing all involved a disservice.
You see, if we're not certain with where we stand and how we view ourselves, once we begin to look into a person we'll always find fault. It's like, we're not happy but trying to make someone else smile. There would never be a genuine connection because not knowing will be the constant distraction. If there is no relating, there is no relationship.
There's a process referred in the old days as courtship. That's a period of time whereas there's communication, not fornication. In today's dating scene, everyone is in a rush to get laid, but end up screwing themselves. We see each other as good enough to lay and play, but not good enough to stay. While quickly arriving in between the sheets, we haven't given one another a reason to stay.
First of all, we don't know one another like that. We forgot to check out future plans and past performances. I say performances, because we all have the tendency to live behind the mask...
...
You are not alone. The exact same thing that are heavy on your mind has been on the mind of others before. Yet, will you let that be a stepping stone or a boulder the weighs you down?
The beauty of the internet is that you can reach out to someone. Free yourself to deal with an issue minus the uncomfortableness of actually exposing your personal issues. Then again, if it's hypothetically speaking, it's really not you. I am here to help you ease your mind. I have no special doctorate nor do I need one to be a friend.
I am looking for questions dealing with Relationships and Domestic Violence. Being that my next book approaches the subject like never before, I assure you a change has come.
So, please join me tomorrow as we build a better tomorrow....
Benjamin Janey doesn't have any blog post yet.
